Today I met a woman who has not one, but two pet crows. OK slight exaggeration. Her husband runs an animal rescue centre. Two of the 130 creatures at their house currently are crows. I LOVE crows. They are one of my favourite birds. Every year, my girls ask me “what do you want for your birthday mum” and the reply is always “a pet crow“. I’m getting closer because today I met a woman who has not one, but two ‘pet’ crows. Except hers aren’t really pets.
To meet this woman, I drove all the way to the top of Norfolk from Kent. 300 mile round trip. To meet a pet crow. Not.
Anyway, that’s a long preamble to explain why this is a partially formed blog post because I didn’t want to blow my 30 consecutive days of blogging. So this is a cheat’s post.
5 easy ways for mums to unleash their inner confidence
1 – Clarity
Get clarity on who you are, what you are, and what you want. Understand your values (you might like this super easy way to identify your values in 5 easy steps). Clarity is the absolute first step to developing inner confidence.
2 – Positivity
Develop a positive mindset. Catch your negative thoughts and reframe as negative ones. Accept and acknowledge praise and compliments. Surround yourself with positive people.
3 – Permission
Give yourself permission to be kind to yourself. To look after yourself. For self-compassion. It’s about looking after your physical and mental wellness. Remember that you are modelling the behaviour for your children.
4 – Feel the fear and do it anyway
I didn’t invent this phrase, it’s from a Susan Jeffers book but I love the concept. Think about what fear feels like for you – where do you feel it? Where do you feel excitement? How does it compare? Just take baby steps towards something you’re worried or anxious about doing.
5 – Good enough
Good enough really is good enough. Let go of trying to be perfect – perfection is impossible. As a mum, your children want you and your presence. 30 minutes of being fully present is much better than 4 hours of you not really listening.