Back in February, I blogged about simplicity and why it seems so complicated.
That was only 6 months ago, and since then, I feel like I have gone full circle in my quest for simplicity. Quite honestly, I stumbled and fell. Now I am picking myself up, dusting off the veil of complexity I have drawn around me. I have been struggling … lost in the wilderness.
I know what I love to do – work with women. But I knew I didn’t want to work with mothers. Yet I wanted to work with women who happen to be mothers. I just couldn’t get my head round this paradox. For me, The Confident Mother was THE most amazing event I have ever run. I felt so sure at the end of January where I wanted to harness and focus my energies. And yet …..
…. 6 months later, I was still faffing about looking for the key to simplicity. I thought I had it yet somehow it slipped through my fingers. I acknowledge that I have been through a maelstrom of overwhelm and turmoil that comes with writing a book.
I now realise that I have been weaving this web of intricacy and complexity because I didn’t want to let go of working with mothers; I didn’t want to let go of working with women; I didn’t want to let go of my fascination with wellness of mind; and if you’re working with mothers, then obviously there are children. To my mind one of THE most important and valuable roles that we take on in our lives is to nurture the minds of our future generations, to act as role models, to live our lives so that our children grow up with happy family memories. I knew my THING was about confidence but I couldn’t quite work out how these elements fitted together or what to leave behind.
Oh my goodness … thanks be to the genius that is Lucy Whittington of Being A Business Celebrity. She helps you find your THING and get known for it. I knew I wanted help with marketing and branding because I was in a serious muddle. Lucy reminded me that I love The Confident Mother. She helped me to ‘file’ the strands of love, passion and expertise. And it is SO simple. It’s easy when somebody else points it out!
THIS is what I have realised …
The Confident Mother is about celebrating and loving life as a woman and as a mother. Everything I do is to help you to create a feeling of confidence as a woman and as a mother. To do that, you need to balance five different elements in your Confidence Circle: work, wellness, contribution, family, and feminine.
The right balance is unique to each woman and will change at different stages in your life. Get these five elements in balance and you will love your life – you will have more confidence, energy, clarity, focus, fun with your family and you will feel fulfilled.
- Work – whether you have your own business, whether you have a career, or whether you are a stay at home mum. It’s about being valued (and paid) for the work that you do.
- Wellness – it’s hard to be confident if you’re not confident in your own mind and your own body; when you don’t have the strength, wellness and health to go out and do what you want to do in the world.
- Contribution – the contribution that you make to the world, where you are adding value and being valued.
- Family – obviously one is about family, your relationship with your children, with your partner, and with your own parents.
- Feminine – it’s also about being a woman, and not just being a mother. It’s about accepting, embracing and actually enjoying being a woman, and the challenges and opportunities that brings.
Isn’t that simplicity in itself? I just love this. It’s helped me clarify how I can help women. It gives me ‘permission’, if I can call it that, to help you work on the whole woman – you as a woman and as a mother. It gives me freedom to focus on working with women in small intimate groups or on a one-to-one basis. It liberates me to work with you whether you are running a business or you are focussed on your career. It doesn’t matter if you are struggling with how you mother or how you show self-love. Together we can explore your Confidence Circle to get those five elements in the right balance for you.
This is so powerful.
I’ve fallen in love with my life all over again.
Yes, fewer ways to work with me. However the power is in the simplicity.
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