The Confident Mother is all about celebrating and loving life as a woman and as a mother. My big mission in life – I want all children to have happy memories of family life. I can’t create those happy memories for you, however I can show you how to cherish and nurture happy memories.
Mums (and Dads), YOU create those happy memories when you have that feeling of confidence. For me, that feeling of confidence is created when you balance these five elements: work | wellness | contribution | family and the feminine.
Most women come to me because they want to focus on the work element. However my philosophy is that you need to get all of these five elements in balance if you want to love your life, have more confidence, more energy, and more fun with your family.
How to create happy memories
Today’s post then is all about the FAMILY: how to create happy memories of family life. It’s all in the jar, the Memories Jar.
In life, we tend to remember the big events – the day we got married, the day we gave birth, the day we graduated, the day we won our first big client, the day you moved house … but the small memories, the little joys, the funny things your children say, often these are forgotten.
Wouldn’t you love to hold onto those memories forever too? Voila, the Memories Jar. Find a beautiful large jar with a lid. A canning jar; maybe a biscuit tin. Something with a lid.
Every few days, or maybe once a week, jot something down on a piece of paper. Keep a pile of small notes by the jar. You will probably need to be quite proactive for the first few weeks to create the positive habit.
Ask each other: What did you enjoy today? What made you laugh? How much fun have you had? Where did you go? What did you eat? ANYONE in the family can contribute – and actively encourage everybody to join in.
The best memories that go in are the ones that are slipped in quietly and secretly.
Ceremonial opening of the happy memories jar
At the end of next year, have a grand ceremonial opening. Choose a day when everybody is around. Make sure everybody is fully present (i.e. not busy checking emails or cooking dinner). Sit down, open the jar, pour out the memories, and take turns to read out each of the memories. I dare you to not have fun doing this!
Sending you and your family love and confidence. I wish a very Merry Christmas and a fantastically Happy New Year! Create some amazing happy memories for you and your family in 2016.
p.s. it’s not long now until the start of The Confident Mother online conference. I have some amazing guests and I’ll be running a prize draw for a free place on my Clear Confidence course which starts in February. You need to be in it to win it! Register here.