Are you up for a power pose challenge this week?
Join the #powerposechallenge wherever you are and discover how simple it can be to get what you want. Post your Power Pose Selfie by Monday 11 December and be in with a chance to win signed copy of The Confident Mother.
I would like to take you one step closer to feeling confident about doing something you have been putting off. Maybe it feels too big or scary. Maybe you don’t feel you deserve it. Maybe you are worried you don’t have the right skills or experience.
Build your confidence by expanding your comfort zone
One way to build our confidence is to push ourselves slightly out of our comfort zone. The interesting thing about our comfort zone, is that if you push it in one area of your life, your self-confidence rises, and your comfort zone expands across all areas of your life.
If you had listened in to my expert masterclass last week for Amanda Alexander (Five Ways to Feel Fabulously Confident Even in the Toughest Situations) you heard me describe how scared I was when I started swimming lessons a few weeks ago. I would have loved any excuse to not go on that first evening. However I’d promised to meet a friend at the pool. And given my kids are doing swimming lessons, I couldn’t let myself back out. Just turning up really pushed me out of my comfort zone.
Feel the fear and do it anyway
All the way to the pool, under my breath I was repeating over and over “Feel the fear and do it anyway”. Once I got there, it was nowhere near as bad as I thought.
I would love you to take yourself out of your comfort zone … just a little this week.
What is the one thing you are putting off because you feel worried or nervous or anxious? Is it learning to swim, like me? Is it going for an interview? Is it making a telephone call to an old work colleague? Applying for a job? Booking on an evening class?
Pick one small thing …
Pick one small thing – something that takes a small pfft of confidence. Maybe you could start by contacting local swimming instructors. Ask a friend to practice some interview questions with you. Make a telephone call to your old boss. Connect with that work colleague on LinkedIn.
Quick … before you back out, email me and share what your one small thing will be. That’s the accountability part.
Two minute power pose
I want you to do that your one small thing THIS week … but (wait for it) before you do, I want you to power pose. Stand up tall. Chest out. Hands on hips. Stand in that high power pose for two minutes. Breathe in and out and repeat to yourself “I am, I can, I will”. Keep on doing this for two minutes. Relax and take your time over it. Do it every morning for a week and let me know how you feel at the end of the week.
Research tells us that the power pose DOES make a difference. High power body language affects cortisol and testosterone levels! Discover more about high body language when you watch this video with Deborah Gruenfeld (14 minutes).
Pick the morning that you will do that one small thing. Power pose before you do it. Then let me know how you get on! (And if your one small thing is book a clarity conversation with Sherry, here’s the link!).
I read this and immediately thought of a pose that makes me feel string and amazing, but I’m not sure I can hold it for two minutes. 🙂
Give it a go and see how you feel Tonja. And I’d love a power pose selfie!