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The Confident Mother

Helping ambitious women in technology fully unlock their leadership potential

15th July 2016

Why do mums settle for less than they deserve?

What I often notice when I talk to mums, is that although they know that what they’ve got isn’t what they want, they are settling for less.

Is that you too? I get frustrated because I know that you DO deserve what you want. You don’t have to settle for less.

Sometimes it’s easier to settle for less

And I get that sometimes when you have so much going on, it’s easier to settle for less than you want. It might feel like it’s less effort, requires less confidence, and actually maybe you don’t know what it is that you want or need.

Maybe your knickers are in a twist because you’re not sure what you want but you know it’s not what you’ve got. Perhaps you sometimes have that nagging feeling wondering if there is something more … whether you could have something different … whether life could feel less stressful … or more complete.

Confidence comes from clarity

My personal experience is that when I don’t know what I want, when I can’t quite put my finger on what’s missing, when I’m not sure what I’m looking for … if I don’t have that certainty and clarity, it’s really REALLY hard to make decisions with confidence. Is that what you find too? That if you don’t know what you want, it’s hard to figure out what to do next or decide if you want help and what that help might look like.

Then I get really frustrated because I waste time starting down several paths. Simply because I haven’t taken the time in the first place to figure out which path I want to take or which part of my life I need to focus on first. Even though you might feel like you haven’t got time to stop and think, taking that time saves time and frustration in the long run.

When you have clarity, that gives you confidence, and a different kind of energy. You know what you want and you know how to get started to get it. Therefore it takes less time to make it happen.

When you have clarity about what you want, it is SO much easier to make decisions and take action.

When you know what you want …

Knowing what you want is the first step. Sometimes the next step is to accept that you deserve what you want and not settling for less.

It may be that, like me, there are some limiting beliefs getting in your way. I don’t mind admitting that it took me a long time to accept that I deserve what I want. That I don’t have to settle for less. That I deserve to be loved to the ends of the earth. Not just loved by others, but loved by me too. Here’s the thing. If you want something different, you have to do something different. You don’t have to settle for less. And I know I can help you.

If you’d love help with working out what to do first and which part of your life to focus on right now (is it your family? your health? your career? your energy? or just getting through the day!) then maybe you need Clear Confidence. When you get Clear Confidence, it stops that chatter in your head that’s preventing you from working out what you REALLY want. It’s what you need if you don’t seem to be ‘getting anywhere’ with what you want to do with your work, your family, your life!

 

Article by Sherry Bevan / Confidence 2 Comments

Comments

  1. Mike Gardner is The Time Doctor says

    16th July 2016 at 4:14 pm

    Gaining clarity in all areas of life is so important, and it’s not always about what you want to achieve, it’s also about gaining clarity on what you already have in your life that you want to keep or perhaps remove

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    • Sherry Bevan says

      16th July 2016 at 7:44 pm

      Great point. Yes clarity about what you already have is so important.

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