The working mum, regardless of whether she works for an employer or runs her own business, is in constant danger of being overwhelmed by guilt, especially during the school holidays. Or so I thought.
So often we talk about the working mum, but what about the working dad? I did a Google search on “working mum guilt”, 534,000 results come back. Yet amazingly, when I searched “working dad guilt”, there were 17,500,000 results. What the … why is there such a HUGE difference. I was honestly expecting the difference to be the other way round. Surely there are not more commentators and articles on working dads than there are on working mums? Even if I change the spelling to the more US centric “working mom guilt”, I only get 1,980,000 results.
What is going on? Is this equality for the sexes gone completely wrong? Working mums don’t even get the lion’s share of guilt?
Yes, there is a new piece of research published by the Pew Research Center in the April 2015 issue of Journal of Marriage and Family which essentially tells us that working dads feel just as much guilt as working mums. It seems that almost half of working dads feel that they do not have enough time with their children.
Quite honestly I’m conflicted here. Yes it’s fantastic that dads (and therefore society) have woken up to the fact that children need them. Dads are feeling the conflict of working long hours and the increased expectations of them as parents. Yet why is it in newspapers, on blog posts, in job interviews – so often I hear from working mum clients, that she was asked about her childcare arrangements and the working dad is not? Why are there SO many more results on “working dad guilt” or “how to be a happy working dad” than for working mums?
Search (Googled 7 April 2015) Results
- Working mum guilt – 534,000
- Working mom guilt – 1,980,000
- Working dad guilt – 17,500,000
- How to be happy working mum – 13,600,000
- How to be happy working dad – 50,300,000
Several blogs that I have read talk about the Internet being rife with stories of “working mum’s guilt” and yet my quick research proves the opposite. In fact the internet is rife with the working dad’s guilt.
Well, ya boo sucks to them. I hope this post goes a little way to reversing the trend.
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